It is very important to our health and well-being to unplug and unwind, especially in light of what is going on all around us in the world.
Hubby and I have been together for over 28 years, 27 of them married and between the kids, which are now mini-men, the job, he is now retired, the house, the bills and all the other things that go along with life, sometimes spending time alone together without distractions is put on the back burner.
February is the shortest month of the year, with only 28 days, and for us, it started with the celebration of the birth of our youngest son who turned 21 on the 1st. It also reminded me that life is short and precious and that we need to take full advantage of each and every day.
When you are working a 9-5 or perhaps an even longer day it can sometimes be hard to shut down and forget about the deadlines and the dreaded morning commute, but just as with anything else scheduled, we should schedule a time to shut down and reconnect with our spouses or significant others. It could be something as simple as sitting on the sofa and talking about the weather…or sitting on the couch watching a movie…or in our case, snuggling and watching episodes of Perry Mason and the Twilight Zone before drifting off to sleep.
There are many ways in which to reconnect with our spouses and/or significant others and they don’t all have to entail spending wads of money or traveling to exotic places. Below are a few inexpensive yet effective ways to reconnect and rekindle the romance.
- Daily Touch: Don’t let the sunset on the day before you at least touch your spouse. Whether it’s a kiss, a high-five, holding hands, a hug, or a back scratch — humans need physical contact, it’s one of our most basic needs!
- Create couples rituals. Do something regularly that bonds you, such as 10 minutes to chat before bed, having morning coffee together, or saving Saturday for date night.
- Daily check-in. Schedule time to appreciate something about each other or offer up some new information from your day and listen. Really listen which is my number one problem and hubby will quickly point it out.
- Disconnect from the 24/7 office. Whether you work outside the home or from a home office. Push the “off” button! Turn off or turn down cell phones, tablets, and computers.
I no longer have the luxury of working from home, but in 2005, I do remember when the boys were young and I worked from home. I would log on as soon as they left for school, log off once they got home but then log on again when they went to bed. Had I known that in less than a year later, I would be laid off, I would have never done that and that was definitely time that cannot be recovered, instead, I should have used it to spend more time with my hubby.
- Setting Social Media limits. Check email and social media platforms in the evening with a time limit, then turn off your cell phone, laptop or tablet and enjoy the unplugged time with each other.
- Say “I love you.” EVERYDAY. Hold hands, kiss, cuddle, pinch and squeeze because it does release endorphins that help you relax.
If you have the time as well as the finances, booking a getaway is also a great way to reconnect and rejuvenate the romance. Online travel booking is a very popular method of scheduling corporate trips and personal vacations. There are literally thousands of easy-to-use websites and apps to choose from, which helps people become their own travel agent.
However, despite this, online booking may not always be the best choice when it comes to travel. Think about it…travel management companies and agencies have the ability to offer clients incredible savings, upgrades, services, and resources that online booking cannot match. While there are benefits to both online booking and travel agencies, there are much more benefits that a travel management company can offer over online booking.